I thought I would share a bit about my journey in search of my wedding dress. Obviously and since we're 18 days away from our wedding, I can't tell you much about it, but I wanted to talk about the process itself, there will be time to talk about the dress afterwards. I have read many many brides in the blog-sphere talking about the search of their dress, the one you will only wear once and has to be perfect. And that's the thing about weddings, isn't it? Every step you take you are bombarded with the idea that it will only happen once, don't regret your decision. That is quite a pressuring thought, let me tell you.
I could say I started my search many months before I even got engaged. I knew the Pronovias catalogue by heart when I got engaged, ha! And I had an idea of what I wanted sketched in my thoughts. I even tried to sketch it on paper, it turns out I can't draw. So, Christmas came, I flew to my parents' and off I went to search the dress together with my mom and sister. Going to the shops was quite fun and I was quite relaxed, enjoying the huge dresses and layers of tulle, feeling like a princess. But nothing was really what I wanted. Mind you, it's hard to say whether a wedding dress is you or not; I mean, I hardly ever wear white, almost never a long dress and only once (remember?) will I wear a train! Do I feel like myself? eeh, yeah, I guess. I am lucky in the sense that because I'm a big dreamer I can easily imagine myself in Lady Di's wedding gown, no problem. But this wedding in general has been a huge reality check for me, so I could sense that a huge dress didn't really have much to do with our lives.
Since I can't give any details, let me jump a chapter or two and tell you that I found a designer (her name will be mentioned after the wedding too) that made a custom dress for me. Yes, I am a lucky girl. She is patient and she listens and she created a wonderful gown for me. I can't thank her enough. I felt no pressure, no rush and she did always what I asked or advised me otherwise. She's a true professional. So I am happy. Last time I went to try it on I shed a little tear and I said "whoa!" like a million times. Happy, happy, happy!
But. Does this mean I don't have second thoughts? No. I still do. I sometimes feel I would have liked to shop much more before making the decision, other days I feel that my dress is 'complicated', that I forgot what suits me best while choosing it, that I never liked that fabric before so why did I choose it??...endless second thoughts. I've come to think that this is normal (for me at least) and if I get those thoughts I think back to the moment when I put it on and I gasped. I have seen the dress twice in my entire life and I'm supposed to have this very close relationship with it, that's hard to do when you've seen it twice!
So to all the brides-to-be our there, if you're having doubts, the only thing I can say is that you're not alone! how can we not have doubts of something you do for the first time and only going to do once?
Oh, I can't wait to see you again wedding dress.
xoxo